Age gaps?

If You were dating someone who was two years older than you and were a girl and the other person was a guy, normally that wouldn't be looked at until you input the grade that both of you were in. Whether it was a 6 and 8th grader, freshman and junior, sophomore and senior, there is always those people who look at you like you're dong something wrong. WHYYYY??? I get that pedophilia is a thing but we are both minors. Why can't we just compare the age to the other people out there that have age gaps like 15-30 years apart? At that point, yes I think there is some room for judgment, but even then why can you just be happy for the happy people they found someone they can confide in on a deeper level. Let's look at some parents and grandparents and great-grandparents etc. I am a junior and I have gon through some shit. I've been lied to and manipulated and forced to do things that I don't want to. I feel like I can't tell anyone that except for the one friend I've had since 8th grade who at the time was in 6th grade. He was always there even when I didn't want him there and he always made me feel safe and respected and made me smile after everything, even when I was in the relationships that put me in my lowest. I have my close friends supporting me in my decision to be with the person however the people who I thought were my friends only see the part where he is 2 years younger than me. What about the fact that I'm happier and more comfortable than I've ever been with any other person I've been with in the past. My parents love the guy I am dating and continue to remind me that they are also 2 years apart. I feel happy, but I also feel concerned. It's because of this that I am scared to tell anybody about my situation and when he is around me with other people, I feel like I can't even be myself anymore. Am I really doing something wrong? Is there actually something wrong with me and am I really still, after all I've been through, delutional. Is this going to lead me to another hole that will take another 2-3 years to climb out of with the help of more doctors and more medication and more everything except for the actual support that I'm looking for. What do I do about this?